Real men don't hit women.
If you struggle with self-care and see this, stop what you’re doing


  • Have you eaten in the last 4ish hours?
  • Have you had something to drink today?
  • Can you have something, even if just milk or water or cup’o’noodles or toast with something yummy on it, if you haven’t, please? 
  • If you have any injuries, can you please take care of them for me
  • Also please take any meds if you should and haven’t, yet?

Whatever you have or haven’t done today just know you’re super strong and I am so proud of you

Okay you can go back to blogging now~ <3

Jun/25/2014 • 80,531 notes • Reblog
I have a few anonymous questions in my inbox right now.

They are not being ignored. I am at work & I will respond to them when I can have more information at my fingertips.

Please please please come back if you’ve sent me an ask recently.

Jun/25/2014 • 1 note • Reblog
Anonymous said:
I've been with a man for three years now, suddenly without warning he grabs my throat squeezing very tight at the same time pushes me down to the bed, screaming terrible things in my ear. Cutting off my breath, then releases me just to sqweeze my wrists holding me down. Then the next morning asks me If I will forgive him, that he isn't like that, never has been. he loves me so he says and wants to spend his life with me. should I trust him again. I did trust him 100 percent before this happened.

I think you need to really talk to him and let him know that you didn’t like that. Abuse is not okay, but it may have been a misunderstanding.. Ya know? People have interesting sexual turn ons. Some people are into that! If you and him do not have an open communication about your sex lives or about the things you might want or might want to try then you should think about that possibility. But if it felt malicious to you.. Leave or be cautious. Make sure that you talk about this. If he is unwilling to talk about it or does it again.. Get help. For him and for yourself. He might have an actual condition or something really might be wrong. Especially since this has never happened before.

Note: I am in no way condoning his behavior. It was done without consent and that is NOT okay, but it MAY have been a misunderstanding.

Nov/17/2013 • 0 notes • Reblog
Anonymous said:
Why don't you promote equality? You have Real men don't hit women. Why don't you start acknowledging women abusing a man, than playing a victim role when they get hit back. Why don't you promote the fact that domestic violence happens to both genders not just women? A woman can inflict their own injuries and blame it on the man and then that man's life is ruined, why should we not acknowledge women crying abuse, when women may be inflicting their own injuries?

Have you even looked at my blog? I mean.. Really. I have answered this question OVER AND OVER. The VERY FIRST POST on my blog besides this one is addressing this.

You cannot begin to understand who I am or how I feel about this issue because I’m basically anonymous. I understand that this is not just an issue affecting women. I am not a monster.

TL;DR I am not an idiot, but you might be. Take a second to look at my blog first.

Nov/17/2013 • 1 note • Reblog
Anonymous said:
You guys really should be more specific here, throughout your page you talk about sexism but then without explanation say "dont hit woman"... Clearly if a woman has a knife and is trying to kill you there are exceptions or are men supposed to submit to murder? What about dont hit anyone unless its self defense... Seems more straightforward

Well sure, but what you’re not understanding is that I made this for a women’s studies course. The project had to be completely connected to women. I got a great grade too. I’m sorry this blog isn’t exactly what you want, but give it a rest. I’ve thought about changing it to something broader, but I run other more successful blogs that require more attention. We’ll see I guess.

EDIT: click the links for RMDHW explanations before you jump down my throat.
Sep/11/2013 • 0 notes • Reblog
Anonymous said:
Ok, but what if she deserves it?

You should try to live life not hitting someone ever, but sometimes things happen.

If by “deserve it” you mean she’s attacking or trying to harm you, then sure. You have the right to self defense.

But if by “deserve it” you mean because you’re an angry person who thinks people deserve to be hit for not being the exact person you want them to be then please educate yourself & become a better person.

Sep/06/2013 • 0 notes • Reblog
Anonymous said:
i've been together with my partner since 2009, eversince whenever we have arguements he will point back the blame on me even if the fault is on his. i really need help. once i stand up for myself he will hit me,slap me,kick me. i want to report him to the police but he always leave no evidence for me . he will never hit my face,or bruising my eye,crack my lips. but he hit my ribs,my jaw. i am really tired with this, when i try to run away from him he will take my identity card. thanks :'(

You need to get out. 

If you are in immediate danger CALL 911.

For help & advice on how to take the next step call the National Domestic Violence Hotline. 1.800.799. SAFE (7233).

If you’re in the UK call Women’s Aid at 1.800.341.900.

There are also other options HERE.

Please get help.

Aug/17/2013 • 0 notes • Reblog





yesterday, a facebook page was created titled “The Sluts Of Lorain County" in order to belittle women and teenage girls of Lorain County, Ohio. within less than 24 hours this page has gained nearly 4,000 likes and the number is growing. these pictures are being posted without these girls’ consent, and many people are identifying these girls in the comment sections by tagging them. some of these girls are as young as freshman in high school. this is both disgusting and dangerous. many of the pictures posted are just girls in halloween costumes, or in bikinis at the beach. like, excuse a girl for not wearing her fucking sweatsuit to the beach. not only is this slut-shaming and sexist, but it’s also a large form of cyber-bullying and harassment. are there any guys’ pictures posted on this page? of course not. when one woman reported the page, Facebook responded:

"Thank you for taking the time to report something that you feel may violate our Community Standards. Reports like yours are an important part of making Facebook a safe and welcoming environment. We reviewed the page you reported for harassment and found it doesn’t violate our community standard on bullying and harassment."

okay, Facebook. please explain to me what the fuck your “community standard on bullying and harassment” is then. maybe you should rethink and rewrite your standards, because i’m certain that posting pictures of people without their consent in order to accuse them of being promiscuous is, in fact, both bullying and harassment.

so please, SIGNAL BOOST AND REPORT. hell, contact Facebook directly and help them to rethink their standards. it’s fucking bullshit the way someone is treated for dressing how they want (especially when it’s for an occasion i.e. homecoming, halloween, swimming, etc.) and no one should have to be subject to slut shaming and bullying.


I’ve reported it twice & nothing..

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The Cycle of Abuse Illustrated Through Single Photos and Multiple Models

Statistics show that 70% of people who are abused as children will grow up into adults who will in turn abuse children. A recent awareness ad campaign by Mexican organization Save the Children shared this fact in single photographs that are both creative and difficult to stomach.

The advertisements were originally published back in May 2012, and were created by Mexican agency Y&R and photographer Ale Burset.

Each one uses five models showing one individual at different stages of life. In the foreground, the individual is experiencing abuse as a child. Older versions of the abused child grow up as they walk across the background of the frame, and turn into the original abuser by the time they walk a full circle.

“70% of abused children turn into abusive adults. Donate at,” the advertisements say.

this teared me up and gave me chills. close to home

May/06/2013 • 38,569 notes • Reblog
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